IT’S EX-RATED BREAKUP PORN

I came across this article, written by Gillian Orr in the Sunshine Coast Daily and thought I would share with you.  – Any comments and songs that come to mind are all welcome!

D-I-V-O-R-C-E, spells out Tammy Wynette, in what is arguably the most famous song about the end of a marriage ever recorded.  Wynette may not have actually written the 1968 hit, but anyone familiar with the pained vocal would not be surprised to learn that she had already been divorced twice.

When Katy Perry released her film, Kate Perry : Part of Me which was intended to be a celebration of her hugely successful California Dreams tour but it has evolved into a candid account of her divorce from Russell Brand, her husband of just one year.  Perry’s hit Part of Me has joined a long list of songs about divorce, inspired by the breakdown of real marriages, which includes the likes of Abba’s, The Winner Takes It All, Paul Simon’s, 50 Ways to Leave Your Lover, and Your Mother and I by Loudon Wainwright III.  Marvin Gaye famously made a whole album about it, Here, My Dear, so called because his ex-wife was to receive profits of the record as part of the divorce settlement.

Naturally, divorce has inspired a ton of memoirs, some of the most prominent being Elizabeth Gilbert’s, Eat, Pray, Love, Susan Gregory Thomas’s, In Spite of Everything and Stacy Morrison’s, Falling Apart in One Piece, the ubiquity of which prompted Elle magazine to dub the genre ‘divorce porn’ in 2010.

A slew of women published novels that are thinly veiled accounts of their own marriage breakdowns:  Nora Ephron penned Heartburn about her divorce from Carl Bernstein; Olivia Goldsmith’s acrimonious divorce inspired The First Wives Club; and Fay Weldon’s Splitting was published the year after she divorced her husband, Ron.

I’ve often thought about having a movie night for the women in the Divorced Women’s Club Members Lounge, getting the women who live in the same towns together and kick it off by watching The First Wives Club movie with Goldie Hawn, Bette Midler and Dianne Keaton.  This is a great movie and although their reason for getting together again after so many years is tragic, it is definitely a movie to watch with your ‘divorced sisters’.

Four young friends, Elise Elliot, Brenda Morelli, Annie MacDuggan, and Cynthia Swann, are graduating. As graduation gifts, valedictorian Cynthia presents the girls with matching Bulgari pearl necklaces. As the graduates take a commemorative picture of the four of them (presumably for the last time), Cynthia makes Annie, Brenda and Elise promise that they will always be there for each other throughout the remainder of their lives.

In the present time, the four friends eventually lose touch with one another, as evident when Cynthia is tearfully gazing at the picture of the four of them on that graduation day. Now wealthy and living in a luxurious penthouse, she gives her maid her own Bulgari pearl necklace (matching the three she gave to her friends on graduation day), and has the maid mail letters to them. She later walks outside of the balcony of her penthouse in a floor length fur coat, a cigarette and a drink, and then commits suicide by jumping from perilous heights after learning through the tabloids that her ex-husband Gil (whom Cynthia made wealthy through her connections,) married his much younger mistress the day before.

Reunited by the death of a college friend, three divorced women seek revenge on the husbands who left them for younger women.

If you are in the Divorced Women’s Club Members Lounge get together with some of the girls who live in your area and have a movie night.  Add popcorn, ice-cream, chocolate and a glass or two of wine and a sing along of songs of heartbreak and lost love and you are guaranteed to have so much fun.

Your thoughts, comments, personal story or suggestions are important to me.

With love and gratitude

Jenny xx

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Jenny is an absolute advocate and champion for women rediscovering themselves through the process of divorce.

She is the creator of the Divorced Women's Club www.divorcedwomensclub.com.au and Co-creator of Separation Made Easy www.separationmadeeasy.com. She delivers bespoke programs for women through her coaching services, writing, on-line programs and the Divorced Women's Club Members Lounge, a safe and private community for women to connect, share and support each other.

Jenny Smith

Jenny is an absolute advocate and champion for women rediscovering themselves through the process of divorce. She is the creator of the Divorced Women's Club www.divorcedwomensclub.com.au and Co-creator of Separation Made Easy www.separationmadeeasy.com. She delivers bespoke programs for women through her coaching services, writing, on-line programs and the Divorced Women's Club Members Lounge, a safe and private community for women to connect, share and support each other.