YOU HAVE ALWAYS KNOWN

As humans we are so very good at naming and blaming people and circumstances for the things that we have continually showing up in our lives that are not what we want.

Whether it’s the guy that used and abused us, the reasons why we are broke, or why we are overweight and unhealthy are usually statements that begin with words like “It’s not my fault…..”  “I can’t” or “its because” closely followed by ‘reasons why’.

The truth can always be found in that one place you haven’t looked to find the answers to these and other questions. The same things that you have showing up in your life time after time all comes down to one common denominator.  YOU!

The one place where we all must look to find the answers is the one place that we will avoid at all costs.  It is always so much easier to place the blame outside of ourselves and to make excuses rather than face the truth about the choices and decisions we have made.

If you sat down and mapped out a timeline of people, situations, and circumstances that have been significant in your life over the past 5 – 7 years and then looked at the role you played it can be quite confronting and challenging.

Be totally honest with yourself and begin to ask yourself a few tough questions.

Here are few to get you started.

As you walked down the aisle what thoughts were running through your head?

When your girlfriends told you what a jerk he was and that he was already cheating on you did you chose to marry him anyway?

Did you choose to believe your partner when he staying at working later than usual and/or text messages coming in at strange hours of the morning and night.

WHATEVER COMES UP FOR YOU – IT’S ALL OK!   IN FACT IT IS FANTASTIC!

If you can muster up enough courage to look at the uncomfortable stuff you did (or failed to do) that got you where you are, you are in a great place.

IF WHAT YOU HAVE SHOWING UP IN YOUR LIFE IS NOT WHAT YOU WANT, DECIDE NOW WHAT IT IS YOU DO WANT.

You are not who you have been. You are not defined by what you have done or what has happened to you. The more responsibility you are willing to take for where you’ve been, the more you regain the ability to decide where you go next!

IF WHAT YOU ARE DOING IS NOT WORKING, IT’S TIME TO DO SOMETHING DIFFERENT!

You Know. You’ve Always Known

 

To share your thoughts, comments, personal story email jenny@divorcedwomensclub.com.au

Jenny xx

 

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